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Today I came across this comment on Fetlife defining the word “pansexual” (trigger warning for a transphobic slur):

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Yeah. This. I’ve had a variety of people “praise” me for being far queerer/gayer/whatever than I am. I’ve playfully called myself hetroflexible…

Really? I always read it as an easy way of saying “I’m attracted to the person, not their gender or genitals.”  Which isn’t even comprehensible to mainstream Straightness, which includes gayness and rests on the inflexibility of orientation.  Even though I’m somewhat butch, attracted to women, and one of my most intense emotional relationships is with a woman, I still understand myself and usually read as basically straight.

Also, the whole procedure of having female friends to go to sexy clubs with is completely alien to me, which may be connected to how excited I am by the idea of being outnumbered.

That comment is the worst “generalizing from an anecdote” I’ve seen in a while and also kind of irrelevent.

Um what the hell?

Firstly, throwing around the T slur is not ok and I’m going to view any opinions from someone who does as being sketchy as heck.

Secondly, I’m in a relationship with a non-binary person so pansexual is quite a useful term for me, although I tend to mainly use queer.

Thirdly, I just jerked off into a pan. What now asshole?

Okay, so what’s going on is, we have a bunch of cishetmen getting behind a couple of transpeops complaining that by imposing gendered admission fees, they are excluding nonbinary and potentially gender ambiguous attendees.  Basically another case of cishetmen not realizing they’re scary and gross. I don’t think the occasional issues of “cheaters” at the door are the reason for binary pricing - it’s mixed events becoming gay male events. The thing to ponder to price appropriately is to consider whether femininity or non-masculinity bears the greater stigma, so it becomes oppression olympics due to Money. My solution would actually be a capitalist one and specify that those identifying as female get the discount and all else pay the higher price, in the interests of the organizers/venue getting more money.  If a woman has a problem with this she should pay the higher price with the extensive disposable income our society grants women, and all else should STFU.

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